The Road To Happiness Through Baby Steps

Have you ever decided that you want to try and change your whole life? That you need to make big changes to finally feel happy? You have looked in the mirror unsatisfied with your current situation and said it’s time to make a change. You decide you will start going to the gym everyday, do a long skincare routine every night, go-out every weekend, meet new people and connect with all of your old friends. You are determined to make all of these big changes (and maybe 17 more) and you will finally be happy! You see the influencers online with their big smiles, killer outfits, perfectly applied make-up, and busy schedules and think to yourself I just need to change everything in my life to be more like them. I mean, they look happy in their instagrams.

The reality is that this form of happiness through large changes is very difficult to achieve. It’s not impossible of course, but it’s okay if you have tried this method of switching up your life and it didn’t work. The road to happiness isn’t one giant change or one big step and it looks different for everyone. It can be a collection of little changes to your life over a longer period of time or it can be a change in perception of your current life. Sometimes when we decide to make huge changes to our life it can backfire because when we aren’t able to live up to this “new life” or it doesn’t turn out how we thought and we feel hopeless and unworthy. It can be easier to set one goal. Try to make one small change in your life like waking up and having a cup of tea every morning. Give yourself a quiet five minutes to fully immerse in the present moment. The change doesn’t need to going the gym everyday at six am for the rest of your life. Little changes can have a big impact on our lives and just by making yourself a cup of tea you can first feel accomplished at completing your set task, and also give yourself time to appreciate you. The road to feeling happy is a journey of many small steps, and if you're in a bad place it might take some time to get there.

Another opportunity to impact your feeling of happiness is changing your perspective. You might not be satisfied with your current life. You want a boyfriend, but don’t have one. You're unhappy in your current work environment or struggling with friendships. There is a power and progress in trying to find the positive in the negative elements of your life. You don’t have a boyfriend right now? Well, it leaves you more time to spend with your girlfriends. You're unhappy in your current job, but are you gaining valuable work experience for your resume? You're struggling with your current friendships. Okay, it’s better to surround yourself with people that boost you up anyway. There of course will be situations where this is very difficult, but if you try and change your perspective on certain situations it can help to boost your morale and overall levels of joy.

So figure out what happiness means to you in the small moments, in the little things you can do just once, or every day. These little steps of satisfaction combined with a more positive perspective can add up!